- Involve them in long conversation while said child is screaming, struggling or wandering off. We are trying to pay attention and not appear rude while also making sure the child is not running off into danger.
- After saying "hello" to child, make repeated attempts to engage a child that is obviously unable or unwilling. This only stresses the parent out further.
- Insist that the child follow rules that he/she cannot follow (get in line!). Most likely the parent is doing the best they can and unless they or someone else is in danger, that is their job, not yours.
- Compare your typical child to a child with a developmental delay (My child does the same thing...). Your experience is not the same. Our whole world is about an experience that is unlike everyone elses. This does not mean you cannot sympathize. Quiet companionship, or "How can I help?" is most appreciated.
- Offer unsolicited advice. It is okay to ask questions, but remember that the subject is very personal for us. Be gentle and respectful.
- Judge us. Not until you've walked a thousand miles in our shoes.
* Now that I can finally sit down and write this...I seem to be forgetting the good ones. I'll add as I think of them...
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